A Few Thoughts: 沒有走不下去的愛，只有不爭氣的戀人 There isn't a love we can't let go of, just disappointing lovers

Haven't been active recently, been rather busy, going to HK in less than half a month!! :DD Hope everyone's doing well :)

1。】一個男人條件再好，他沒有時間陪你，也是多餘的。
No matter how good a man's condition, if he has no time for you, is unneccessary.

愛情是不可以望梅止渴的，抱著回憶就能度過每一天麼？一個男人願意給女人多少時間，就是他有多愛他。你愛我的話，是可以擠出一點時間的。擠不出時間，是你已經做了抉擇。既然沒有時間，我釋放你吧。同時，也是釋放我自己。
Quenching your thirst by staring at the sea is not what love is, can you live every day just holding onto memories? The amount of time a man is willing to give to a woman, shows how much he loves her. If you love me, then you can find some time for me. If you can't, you've already made a decision. Since there is no time, I choose to set you free. At the same time, I am also setting myself free.

很佩服這類女孩子：當她發現對方不是真心喜歡她，她可以立刻撇脫地分手。其他女人，可能會繼續自己騙自己，一個人苦撐。真正有智慧的女孩子明白愛情是甚麼一回事：愛情，要兩情相悅。你愛他，他不愛你，這段關係就沒意思。肯放手，就是愛自己。耐心一點，等待那個真正兩情相悅的人吧。
I really admire those girls, when she discovers that her significant other doesn't truly love her anymore, who can immediately and swiftly break up. Other women, might continue to lie to themselves, and keep struggling alone. Women with real wisdom will understand what love is: love, requires equivalent feelings from both ends. If you love him, but he doesn't love you, then this relationship is meaningless. Choosing to let go, is to love yourself more. Be patient, and someday you will find the person who loves you equivalent to your love for him.

2。】如果開始下一段感情，我不會再問，喜歡我什麼？也不會問，是認真對待嗎？我會問：三個月後還會爭分奪秒的關心嗎？半年後一句不開心仍舊會陪伴左右嗎？一年後睡不著是還會百度故事在耳邊輕喏嗎？兩年後看見落淚還像第一次那般束手無策嗎？三年四年或者更久，敢不敢一如既往沒有理由的對我疼愛？
When I start my next relationship, I won't ask, "What do you like about me" again. Neither will I ask, "Are you serious about me?" I would ask instead, "After three months, will you still drop everything in a split second worrying about me? After half a year, if I said I was unhappy, like old times be right by my side? After one year, if I can't fall asleep, will you still whisper multitudes of stories by my ear? After two years, will you still be all disoriented and don't know what to do when I shed tears? Three or four or many more years later, will you still love me with no obligation?

3。】別把悲傷掛在嘴上，每個人都有自己的故事。說分手的時候不要吵鬧，畢竟在一起過那麼久。分手他也會難過，只是他比較明智，不想束縛你的或他的明天。好聚好散，以後還是朋友，大家都有自己的無奈。別說你最愛的是誰，人生還很長，誰也無法預知明天。也許你的真愛還在下一秒等著你。
Don't constantly talk about your sadness, everyone has their own story. Don't argue when you break up, it doesn't matter how long you've been together. Breaking up hurts him too, its just that he was smarter, and didn't want to wreak yours or his future. Easy come, easy go, still will be friends, but everyone has their helplessness. Don't say who your most loved one is, life is very long, no one knows what tomorrow will bring. Maybe your true love is waiting for you in the next second.

4。】你不知道，某些時刻，我有多麼難過。你不知道，沒有回應的等待，真的讓人很累。你不知道，我是鼓起了多大的勇氣，才敢唸念不忘。又或者，你不是不知道，只是假裝不知道。都說時光飛逝，其實只是自己的心在變，情在變。都說抵擋不過時間，其實是時間抵擋不過我們的善變。你那麼自私，我那麼傻。
You don't know, in some moments, how unhappy I become. You don't know, waiting for a reply that I'll never get, really makes one tired. You don't know, the courage I had to muster, so that I could forget. Or maybe, it's not that you don't know, you're just pretending you don't. People say that time flies, but it's actually my own heart that's changing, feelings that are changing. People say that it won't last the trials of time, but actually it was just a matter that time couldn't withstand our need to change. Your selfishness, my stupidity.

5。】好男人經得起誘惑，好女人耐得住寂寞。愛可以簡簡單單。但不能隨隨便便。沒有不能在一起的兩個人，只有靠不攏的兩顆心。女人，不要輕易去妥協。
A good man can resist temptation, a good woman can stand loneliness. Love can be simple, but it shouldn't be casual. There aren't two people who can't be together, just two hearts that aren't together. Women, shouldn't compromise so easily.

6。】幸福是什麼？幸福就是牽著一雙想牽的手，一起走過繁華喧囂，一起守候寂寞孤獨；就是陪著一個想陪的人，高興時一起笑，傷悲時一起哭；就是擁有一顆想擁有的心，重複無聊的日子不乏味，做著相同的事情不枯燥……只要我們心中有愛，我們就會幸福，幸福就在當初的承諾中，就在今後的夢想裡。也許幸福就是，陪你走一條叫一輩子的路，跨一座叫奈何的橋，喝一種叫孟婆的湯。也許會累，會疲憊，卻從沒想過放棄；也許沿途風景迷人充滿誘惑，卻彼此保留住最初的感覺；也許會起爭執，會有分歧，卻依然會聽從和默認；也許不能沒分每秒在一起，卻在心裡始終留著位置。
What is happiness? Happiness is holding the pair of hands you want to hold, walking together amongst the hustle and bustle, being together amidst the loneliness; To be with someone you want to be with, share your happy moments, share your unhappy moments; To possess the heart that you wish to possess, continually repeating those meaningless days, doing the same things without getting frustrated... As long as there is love in our hearts, we will be happy, happiness is within those initial promises, within our future dreams. Perhaps happiness is, walking by your side on a road named life, cross a bridge called regret, drink a soup called forget. Perhaps one will become tired, get exhausted, but still never think of giving up; perhaps the road ahead is full of temptation, but you still continue to hold on to those initial feelings; perhaps arguments will arise, and there will be different opinions, but will continue to listen and tolerate; perhaps separation is inevitable, but that special position in my heart will still hold you.

7。】總有人問我什麼是愛情，我覺得愛情就是二十歲的時候，我帶你跟朋友出去玩，你讓我少喝點，我讓你扶著我。四十歲的時候我去上班你讓我把襯衫領子翻出來，我走之前還親你一口。六十歲的時候退休在家，我們盤腿在床上說話解悶，說說下週去哪兒懷舊！
There are always people who ask me what love is, I feel that love at 20, I'll bring you out to play with friends, you help me drink less, and I lean on you. At 40, when I got to work, you help me prepare my clothes, and before I leave for work, I give you a good bye kiss. When I'm 60, retired and at home, we would lie on the bed and talk about anything and everything, talk about where to go for reunions!

8。】每一個現在，都是我們以後的記憶。我們說過的話，做過的事，走過的路，遇過的人，都是我們以後的回憶。我們無須緬懷昨天，不必奢望明天，只要認真地過好每個今天，說能說的話，做可做的事，走該走的路，見想見的人。
Every now, will become our future memories. Everything we say, everything we do, the roads we taken, the people we've met-- all will become part of our memories. There is no need to reminisce our yesterdays, nor is there a need to ponder about tomorrow, we just need to live each day to its fullest: say what you want to say, do what you can do, walk the roads you should walk, and see the people you want to see.

Munchie Adventure: Deer Garden 鹿園, Port Coquitlam

After a rather frustrating day trying to cancel my gym membership... which seems more and more like a money-thirsty trap, went out for dinner with the family. Thank goodness for them, or else I wouldn't be blogging right now, and pretty much dead... so I can pay off the cancellation fee which might've amounted to $2000+ CANADIAN DOLLARS!!!! Crazy, right? Finally resolved it at $500, but in total, this "lesson" cost me close to $1000 ='( Anyways, onto happier stuff!! Food!! :D

This time, we went to a restaurant that's been around for a long time, and there's good reason why they are still so popular. Pretty much grew up with this restaurant, and it's like a hidden gem here, so I decided to finally blog about it, since I started this blog :)

Ok, so the waitresses there can be a bit cocky sometimes, but if you get to know them, they're actually really nice :) I also noticed the recent price increase, but the size of the dishes remained the same, and quality was the same, so it was ok. I would say this is the best place for good Chinese food near Coquitlam (it's located on the Port Coquitlam- Coquitlam boundary), considering the rest are either too pricey and lack decent food, or don't have very decent food at all =P

Restaurant: Deer Garden 鹿園
Location: 3610 Westwood Street, Port Coquitlam
Cuisine: Chinese
Price range: $10-15 per person for dinner (they have an afternoon menu too)
Date of visit: May 18, 2012



Atmosphere: 3/5
Staff/service: 3.5/5
Food variety: 3.75/5
Food quality: 4.5/5
Buck worthy? 4/5

We ordered the 3 dish combo ($41.88), which comes with rice, soup, and dessert (which is usually sweet soup).

First was the chicken, which is the best chicken I've had so far, and order it every time I come here. Its got good texture and seasoned well, I don't like my chicken mushy, which is what happens with a lot of food places ><"

Next was the bean curds with mushrooms, which is also a family favorite. Very fresh every time, and a good portion of bean curd. My only complaint is that the sauce is too thick.

Last came the fish with celery, fungus, and peas. Very crisp veggies and fish was fresh.

If you have the chance to visit, you should try their curry beef/tofu/chicken/_____ (they have a few curry dishes) and sweet sour pork, both are very delish :D

Recipe: Cinnamon Buns

This one takes a bit more waiting time, and is my muscle-training recipe (cuz I'm weak haha). Again I separate the list of ingredients to make it easier to follow :) (or so I think..) As well, for the optional fillings, I didn't put them in this time, or actually, any time because I like my cinnamon buns plain :)

Ingredients:
In measuring cup:
10ml              yeast
75ml              warm water
5ml                sugar
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In large bowl:
60ml              margarine, melted
65ml              sugar (this isn't a mistake!)
2ml                salt
125ml             warm milk

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In a smaller bowl:
1                    egg (beaten)--> best if at room temperature

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625-750 ml    flour (keep about 250 aside first, then slowly add more as needed)

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Filling: (you can get this together while you wait for it to rise, you'll have plenty of time to do this ^^-- just get the butter/margarine out first so it can get to room temperature)
30ml              brown sugar
125ml             icing sugar
60ml              margarine (or butter)--> at room temperature
10ml               cinnamon
60ml              raisins (optional)
60ml              chopped nuts (optional)

Directions:

1. Mix sugar and water in measuring cup, then sprinkle yeast on top. Let stand for 5-10 mins (until it gets all bubbly, you might have to swirl it around a bit sometimes because the yeast might clump up and not bubble well)

2. In large bowl, combine melted margarine, sugar, salt, and warm milk.

3. Add dissolved yeast and beaten egg to large bowl.

4. Add 500ml flour and mix. Add 125ml more if it's sticky and then start mixing with hands :)

5. Slowly add more flour as needed, up to 125ml more (I usually only use about 50-75ml more)-- BE CAREFUL! TOO MUCH FLOUR MAKES STIFF BUNS D:

6. Knead for ~10 minutes (this is the workout part for me ;D)

It should become less sticky over time!

7. Lightly oil large bowl and cover well (or you can use a plastic bag or something, but since you already have a bowl you're using, why not? ^^)

Time for the waiting~~ See you all in 3+ hours! (Rising time depends, just gotta wait for it to at least double its size before you play with it again =P) Don't forget to bring out the margarine and the filling ingredients if you haven't already done so!!

**3 hours later**

Hi! How did the rising go? Did it double/triple in size? If it did, then you're on the right track! If not, you could message me and I'll try to figure out why it didn't grow accordingly :) Lets continue on...

8. Punch down the dough (yes, quite literally, and its rather satisfying to punch it hehe).

9. Roll into a rectangular shape, 1 cm thick-- I usually roll it out on a cookie sheet, makes it more even.

If you decide to use a cookie sheet, remember to place a wet towel underneath it so it doesn't slide everywhere :)

10. Spread margarine evenly over surface

(doesn't have to be really thick, and you don't really have to use ALL of it, just enough to cover the whole dough surface).

11. Combine the filling ingredients

and spread evenly over the surface of the dough.

12. Roll up as for a jelly roll.

Cut into 8 equal pieces (I do 8 because it's easy to divide and it fits perfectly into my mini meatloaf pans :D) After cutting, you can "tighten" / re-roll a bit so its not too loose.

13. Place on its side (cut side up) on a greased baking sheet (I use my meatloaf pans) about 1 cm apart, or further if you don't want them to stick to each other after baking. You can dump the filling that spills out on top :)
14. Let it sit and rise for another 3-6 hours (depending on what size you like them to be, and there is a max as to how much the yeast will rise before it droops, so be careful!) I usually let them rise in the oven-- OFF!!-- because the environment there seems to give best rising results :)

**3 hours later**

Ok, so I let it rise for 3 hour only because of time issues (I was in a sort of rush to get them done), so I'll start baking it now (it doesn't rise much while its in the oven, so make sure you like the look before you put it in!)

15. If you put the cinnamon buns in the oven to rise, take them out before you preheat the oven! Preheat oven to 375^oF.

16. Cover cinnamon buns loosely with tin foil and bake for 15 mins, then turn down the heat to about 300^oF and bake for another 10-15 mins, or until golden.

This still needs a few more minutes, see how "pale" it is? :)

17. Remove from pan while hot, and let cool for a little bit before munching!! :) Enjoy~~

Good luck with this recipe everyone! :D

A few thoughts: 女孩問，男孩答 (Girl asks, boy answers)

午後，慵懶的陽光灑落地面，
縱長路上，男孩騎車載著女孩…..
[你會愛我多久？]
女孩緊抱著男孩，側著頭在他耳邊這樣甜甜的問，
她知道，這個問題沒有100分的答案。

On a sunny afternoon, a boy and a girl were riding on a bike...

"How long will you love me for?"

The girl hugged the boy tightly, as she sweetly whispered it into his ear, knowing that, there is no perfect answer.

帶著嬌嗔的輕笑，
她說：「給你一個說甜言蜜語的機會。」
男孩卻認真的思考了起來。
Softly laughing in her cute way,
she said, "Giving you a chance to say sweet things to me."
The boy actually got serious and started to think deeply.

趁著紅燈停止的機會，他舉起手比了個“一”
要女孩猜猜他的答案是什麼。
Given the chance of it being a red light, the boy raised one finger indicating "one" 
wanting the girl to guess what his answer meant.

女孩想了一想，快樂的說：「一輩子！」
男孩笑了，並不是因為她答對，而是感染了她的喜悅。
The girl thought for a moment, and happily replied, "One lifetime!"
The boy laughed, not because she answered correctly, but because he was infected by her happiness.

綠燈了，男孩不僅趨車面對現實，也收斂起笑容，
輕輕的告訴女孩：
「我不會給這種答案的，這樣的答案好到不真實了，像在說謊..再猜猜..」
女孩對男孩的說法很滿意，於是歪者頭繼續想..
「一天？」
「呵呵，我們已經相戀兩個月了，
一天、一星期、一個月這些都不成立喔！」
The light turned green, the boy continued to drive but knew he had to face reality too, so his smile retracted, and gently told the girl,
"I won't give you that kind of answer, it's not practical, like I'm lying... guess again.."
The girl was very satisfied with the boy's response, so she continued to think...
"One day?"
"Haha, we already been dating for two months,
one day, one week, and one month all don't make sense!"

又是紅燈，男孩握住女孩的手，微笑的看著她，
女孩竊笑，大聲的說「不會是一瞬間吧？」
這個答案讓男孩差點笑倒在馬路上「當然不是啦！」
他一直深愛著女孩的幽默，深愛著女孩爽朗的笑容，
這個答案讓他更緊握住女孩的手...
The light turned red again, the boy took the girl's hand in his own, smiled and looked at her,
the girl snickered, and loudly said, "It wouldn't be for one moment, would it?"
This answer made the boy almost fall off his bike from laughing, "Of course not!"
He always deeply loved her sense of humour, deeply loved her hearty smile,
this answer made him grip her hand even tighter...

「一年嗎？」曾經有過一年時間等待的承諾，
使得女孩對一年這個答案特別敏感。

"One year then?" Having once had a promise to wait one year,

the girl was a bit sensitive to this answer.

男孩搖搖頭，
他們之間已經不需要等待，隻剩時間的考驗…….
「一百年好了，愛我一百年就夠了。」
女孩說著，並表現著幸福的模樣。
The boy shook his head,
There was no need for any waiting anymore in their relationship, let time be their test...
"One hundred years is good, it's enough to love me for one hundred years."

As the girl said this, her expression was one of great happiness.

男孩說「一百年太短了吧，不夠我愛你啊！」
甜言蜜語是男孩的專長，愛聽甜言蜜語卻是女孩的弱點….
女孩笑了，輕鈴的笑聲讓男孩闖了紅燈….
The boy said, "One hundred years is too short, it's not enough for me to love you!"
Sweet words are a boy's expertise, loving to hear sweet words is a girl's weakness...
The girl laughed, her laughter was like a softly chiming bell and made the boy run through a red light...

「想要聽答案了嗎？」男孩想說了，
而女孩想聽「我會愛你多久呢？」

"Do you want to hear the answer?" the boy wanted to tell her,

and the girl wanted to hear "How long will you love me for?"

男孩手比著一說：
「一…….一直到你不再愛我的那一天…….」
女孩怔了……
一直到你不再愛我的那一天……

Raising one finger again, the boy said,

"One... until the one day you don't love me anymore..."

The girl was moved...

Until one day you don't love me anymore...

<3<3 This was too sweet!! I saw it on a website, and decided to share (since the website is named "Good things to be shared" :D) Hope you all enjoyed this story too!! (And I hope I didn't butcher it too much as I tried to translate it :)