A Few Thoughts: 誰是真正愛你的人--魯文 Who Truly Loves You

I found this a while ago, and I felt it was quite interesting to ponder about~~ Not that I agree with everything, but before we lose someone who truly loves us in our lives, lets try to notice these people. Don't have so many regrets in life, its not worth it. Don't have so many wants in life, it only makes you unhappy. Don't have so many complaints, isn't it better to be thankful?

**I think they use "lover" with the idea that it's more casual and not as serious as someone who truly loves you? Not 100% sure xD**

關係一般的情人，祇注意你迷人的笑容。
一個真正愛你的人，會特別注意你緊鎖的雙眉。
Your average lover**, will be mesmerized by your smile.
Someone who truly loves you, will be especially sensitive to your furrowed brows.

關係一般的情人，充其量是聽聽你訴說困擾。
一個真正愛你的人，會積極為你解決困擾。

Your average lover, at best will listen to your troubles.
Someone who truly loves you, will actively try to help you solve your troubles.

關係一般的情人，習慣於帶你去吃他認為好吃的東西。
一個真正愛你的人，會親手為你准備你喜歡吃的東西。

Your average lover, has a habit of bringing you to eat their favorite foods.
Someone who truly loves you, will make your favorite foods themselves.

關係一般的情人，只會時時等著你的電話或邀請。
一個真正愛你的人，時時想打電話給你。

Your average lover, will constantly wait for your phone call or invites.
Someone who truly loves you, will constantly want to call you.

關係一般的情人，討厭你在他睡了後打電話來。
一個真正愛你的人，會間為什麼現在才打電話來。

Your average lover, will dislike it when you call them while they are asleep.
Someone who truly loves you, will ask you why you're calling them now.

關係一般的情人，永遠祝福你幸福。
一個真正愛你的人，永遠會想著如何給你幸福。

Your average lover, will always wish you happiness.
Someone who truly loves you, will always think about how to give you happiness.

關係一般的情人，希望你為他改變。
一個真正愛你的人，希望他為你改變。

Your average lover, hopes that you will change for them.
Someone who truly loves you, hopes that he/she may change for you.

關係一般的情人，會責問你為什麼讓他難過。
一個真正愛你的人，會自責為什麼讓你難過。

Your average lover, will question why you let them be sad
Someone who truly loves you, will question him/herself why he/she let you be sad.

關係一般的情人，常會想著產生裂痕的原因。
一個真正愛你的人，會積極考慮彌合裂痕的辦法。

Your average lover, will frequently think of what caused the rifts.
Someone who truly loves you, will frequently consider how to fix the rifts.

關係一般的情人，大多衹會看到他為你所做的努力。
一個真正愛你的人，會看到你為他所做的一切努力。

Your average lover, at most will see how much he/she has done for you.
Someone who truly loves you, will see all the things you've done for him/her.

關係一般的情人，在吵架後往往認為愛情已經結束。
一個真正愛你的人，卻懂得真正愛情要經歷爭吵的考驗。

Your average lover, will believe that your love has ended after an argument.
Someone who truly loves you, will understand that true love undergoes and can withstand the trials of arguments.

關係一般的情人，期望你永遠在他身邊陪伴他。
一個真正愛你的人，渴望他能永遠伴在你身旁！
Your average lover, expects you will stay by his/her side forever.
Someone who truly loves you, desires to stay by your side forever!

So open your eyes to those around you and see who truly is there for you! Cherish every moment with them! Cherish THEM. (Sorry about the bad translation, it's written much more beautifully in Chinese ^^")

A Few Thoughts: 離開後，別說祝我幸福，你有什麼資格祝我幸福...

離開後，別說祝我幸福，你有什麼資格祝我幸福...
想你的時候有些幸福，幸福得有些難過。
After leaving, don't say you wish me happiness, what gives you the right to wish me happiness...
Happiness is when I think about you, but now there's sadness in this happiness.

經不住似水流年，逃不過此間少年
原來地久天長，只是誤會一場。
Unable to withstand the flow of time, can't escape these years of youth
It turns out that Lang Syne, was only a misunderstanding.

和愛的人吵架，和陌生人講心裡話。
Quarrel with a loved one, have heart to heart talks with strangers.

聽悲傷的歌，看幸福的戲。
人生若只如初見。
Listen to sad love songs, watch happy movies.
Life is as it was once upon a time.

你不過是仗著我喜歡你。
You just relied on the fact that I liked you.

向來緣淺，奈何情深。彼年豆蔻，誰許誰地老天荒。
我不在乎你對我的不在乎。
We were never meant to be, regardless of how strong our feelings were. He was cardamom, who promised the end of time.
I don't care about how you don't care about me.

習慣難受，習慣思念，習慣等你，
可是卻一直沒有習慣看不到你。
I've gotten used to hard feelings, missing you, waiting for you,
but sadly, never got used to not seeing you.

如花美眷，似水流年。
回得了過去，回不了當初。
Like the beautiful flowers of spring, like the flow of time.
We can return to the past, but can't go back to how things were.

那些最終會讓你陷進去的，
一開始總是美好的。
These things that will make you fall into a trap,
it all starts off wonderfully.

當你做對的時候，沒有人會記得;
當你做錯的時候 ， 連呼吸都是錯。
When you are right, no one will remember;
When you are wrong, even a breath you take is wrong.

愛那麼短 ， 遺忘那麼長。
等待，是一生最初的蒼老。
Love is so short, forgetting is so long.
Waiting, is the beginning of aging.

有些事一轉身就一輩子，年輕時我們放棄，
以為那只是一段感情，
後來才知道，那其實是一生。
In the blink of an eye some things become a lifetime, we gave it up when we were young,
thought that it was just another relationship,
then we realized, that this was our life.

我還在原地等你，
你卻已經忘記曾來過這裡。
I'm still waiting for you where we parted,
but you've already forgotten you've come here before.

哀莫過於心不死。
Sorrow is better than a heart that doesn't stop loving you.

我很好，
不吵不鬧不炫耀，
不要委屈不要嘲笑，
也不需要別人知道。
I'm doing great.
No yelling, no arguing, no gloating,
Don't need to be wronged, don't need to be laughed at,
And don't need anyone to know.

我是你轉身就忘的路人甲，
憑什麼陪你蹉跎年華到天涯？
I am the passerby who you've forgotten already,
what makes you worth my time?

一個人只要不再想要，
就什麼都可以放下。
A person just needs to stop thinking about it,
then they can let go of anything.

誰的寂寞覆我華裳。
誰的華裳覆我肩膀。
Whose loneliness covers my clothes,
Whose clothes covers my shoulders.

祈求天地放過一雙戀人，
怕發生的永遠別發生。
We pray that the heavens may spare this pair of lovers,
May what we fear never happen.

愛的最高境界是經得起平淡的流年。
童話已經結束，遺忘就是幸福。
最初不相識，最終不相認。
生不對，死不起。
Love's greatest point is being able to withstand these plain fleeting years.
The fairytale has ended, forgetting is happiness.
We didn't know each other at the beginning, and at the ending, we pretend not to know each other.
Born wrong, can't afford to die.

幸福，
就是找一個溫暖的人過一輩子。
沒有什麼過不去，只是再也回不去。
Happiness,
Is to find and spend your life with a loving caring person.
There's nothing that won't pass, just things that we can't go back to.

要有多堅強，才敢念念不忘。
看著別人的故事，流著自己的眼淚。
How strong must it be, for it to be unforgettable?
I watch other people's stories unfold, as I shed my own tears.

我喜歡現在的自己，我懷念過去的我們。
I like who I am now, but I miss us back then.

不被理解的弱小只好一直堅強。
不要依賴別人，
是你還有人可以依賴的時候才說的出來的。
Those who are misunderstood can only become stronger.
Don't rely on anyone,
It's only when you have someone you can rely on that you can finally speak.

也許走得太遠的代價就是寂寞。
Perhaps the price to pay for walking too far is loneliness.

我在懷念，你不再懷念的。
感情的戲
我沒演技。
I yearn for what you don't yearn for anymore.
This emotional drama,
I'm not a good actress.

一個人，
一座城，
一生心疼。
One person,
One castle,
A lifetime of heartache.

我懷舊，因為我看不到你和未來。
請不要假裝對我好，
我很傻，會當真的。
I am nostalgic, because I can't see you and the future.
Please don't pretend to be kind to me,
I'm quite gullible, and will mistake that as sincere.

不要仗著我對你的好向我使壞。
不要騙我，
你知道即使你的謊話我都會相信。
Don't use my kindness towards you as a weakness and harm me.
Don't lie to me,
You know that I will trust you even if you are lying.

要離開，就請，永遠別再回來。
If you must leave, then please, and never come back.

我還活在記憶裡你卻已經失去記憶
同步相愛很幸福
痛苦的只是——
親愛的我沒能和你同步遺忘
你沒任何資格祝我幸福。
I'm still living in my memories even though you've already lost yours
Being in love at the same time is true happiness
The pain come when--
Dear me hadn't forgotten at the same pace as you
You don't have any right to wish me happiness.

愛與不愛，極端理性的時候，都是無用。
Love or none, when we need our logic the most, it disappears.

能堅持的人太少，是因為一開始就不認真。
Those who persist are too few, because we start off not being serious.

有些人永遠不懂，離開才是最大的傷害。
那麼，從離開的時候，你還有什麼資格祝我幸福？
Some people never understand, leaving is the greatest hurt.
So, ever since you left, what right do you have to wish me happiness?

離開那一刻，你選擇放棄，我為你，你再不值得。
你扭頭，我沒必要等在原地。笑著哭也要幸福。
轉身比你快，走開，再不回來
The moment you left, you chose to give up. For you, I knew it wasn't worth it anymore.
You shook your head, I had no need to wait for you. Even if I'm smiling while crying, I will find happiness.
I'll turn away faster than you, leave, and never return.

A Few Thoughts: 沒有走不下去的愛，只有不爭氣的戀人 There isn't a love we can't let go of, just disappointing lovers

Haven't been active recently, been rather busy, going to HK in less than half a month!! :DD Hope everyone's doing well :)

1。】一個男人條件再好，他沒有時間陪你，也是多餘的。
No matter how good a man's condition, if he has no time for you, is unneccessary.

愛情是不可以望梅止渴的，抱著回憶就能度過每一天麼？一個男人願意給女人多少時間，就是他有多愛他。你愛我的話，是可以擠出一點時間的。擠不出時間，是你已經做了抉擇。既然沒有時間，我釋放你吧。同時，也是釋放我自己。
Quenching your thirst by staring at the sea is not what love is, can you live every day just holding onto memories? The amount of time a man is willing to give to a woman, shows how much he loves her. If you love me, then you can find some time for me. If you can't, you've already made a decision. Since there is no time, I choose to set you free. At the same time, I am also setting myself free.

很佩服這類女孩子：當她發現對方不是真心喜歡她，她可以立刻撇脫地分手。其他女人，可能會繼續自己騙自己，一個人苦撐。真正有智慧的女孩子明白愛情是甚麼一回事：愛情，要兩情相悅。你愛他，他不愛你，這段關係就沒意思。肯放手，就是愛自己。耐心一點，等待那個真正兩情相悅的人吧。
I really admire those girls, when she discovers that her significant other doesn't truly love her anymore, who can immediately and swiftly break up. Other women, might continue to lie to themselves, and keep struggling alone. Women with real wisdom will understand what love is: love, requires equivalent feelings from both ends. If you love him, but he doesn't love you, then this relationship is meaningless. Choosing to let go, is to love yourself more. Be patient, and someday you will find the person who loves you equivalent to your love for him.

2。】如果開始下一段感情，我不會再問，喜歡我什麼？也不會問，是認真對待嗎？我會問：三個月後還會爭分奪秒的關心嗎？半年後一句不開心仍舊會陪伴左右嗎？一年後睡不著是還會百度故事在耳邊輕喏嗎？兩年後看見落淚還像第一次那般束手無策嗎？三年四年或者更久，敢不敢一如既往沒有理由的對我疼愛？
When I start my next relationship, I won't ask, "What do you like about me" again. Neither will I ask, "Are you serious about me?" I would ask instead, "After three months, will you still drop everything in a split second worrying about me? After half a year, if I said I was unhappy, like old times be right by my side? After one year, if I can't fall asleep, will you still whisper multitudes of stories by my ear? After two years, will you still be all disoriented and don't know what to do when I shed tears? Three or four or many more years later, will you still love me with no obligation?

3。】別把悲傷掛在嘴上，每個人都有自己的故事。說分手的時候不要吵鬧，畢竟在一起過那麼久。分手他也會難過，只是他比較明智，不想束縛你的或他的明天。好聚好散，以後還是朋友，大家都有自己的無奈。別說你最愛的是誰，人生還很長，誰也無法預知明天。也許你的真愛還在下一秒等著你。
Don't constantly talk about your sadness, everyone has their own story. Don't argue when you break up, it doesn't matter how long you've been together. Breaking up hurts him too, its just that he was smarter, and didn't want to wreak yours or his future. Easy come, easy go, still will be friends, but everyone has their helplessness. Don't say who your most loved one is, life is very long, no one knows what tomorrow will bring. Maybe your true love is waiting for you in the next second.

4。】你不知道，某些時刻，我有多麼難過。你不知道，沒有回應的等待，真的讓人很累。你不知道，我是鼓起了多大的勇氣，才敢唸念不忘。又或者，你不是不知道，只是假裝不知道。都說時光飛逝，其實只是自己的心在變，情在變。都說抵擋不過時間，其實是時間抵擋不過我們的善變。你那麼自私，我那麼傻。
You don't know, in some moments, how unhappy I become. You don't know, waiting for a reply that I'll never get, really makes one tired. You don't know, the courage I had to muster, so that I could forget. Or maybe, it's not that you don't know, you're just pretending you don't. People say that time flies, but it's actually my own heart that's changing, feelings that are changing. People say that it won't last the trials of time, but actually it was just a matter that time couldn't withstand our need to change. Your selfishness, my stupidity.

5。】好男人經得起誘惑，好女人耐得住寂寞。愛可以簡簡單單。但不能隨隨便便。沒有不能在一起的兩個人，只有靠不攏的兩顆心。女人，不要輕易去妥協。
A good man can resist temptation, a good woman can stand loneliness. Love can be simple, but it shouldn't be casual. There aren't two people who can't be together, just two hearts that aren't together. Women, shouldn't compromise so easily.

6。】幸福是什麼？幸福就是牽著一雙想牽的手，一起走過繁華喧囂，一起守候寂寞孤獨；就是陪著一個想陪的人，高興時一起笑，傷悲時一起哭；就是擁有一顆想擁有的心，重複無聊的日子不乏味，做著相同的事情不枯燥……只要我們心中有愛，我們就會幸福，幸福就在當初的承諾中，就在今後的夢想裡。也許幸福就是，陪你走一條叫一輩子的路，跨一座叫奈何的橋，喝一種叫孟婆的湯。也許會累，會疲憊，卻從沒想過放棄；也許沿途風景迷人充滿誘惑，卻彼此保留住最初的感覺；也許會起爭執，會有分歧，卻依然會聽從和默認；也許不能沒分每秒在一起，卻在心裡始終留著位置。
What is happiness? Happiness is holding the pair of hands you want to hold, walking together amongst the hustle and bustle, being together amidst the loneliness; To be with someone you want to be with, share your happy moments, share your unhappy moments; To possess the heart that you wish to possess, continually repeating those meaningless days, doing the same things without getting frustrated... As long as there is love in our hearts, we will be happy, happiness is within those initial promises, within our future dreams. Perhaps happiness is, walking by your side on a road named life, cross a bridge called regret, drink a soup called forget. Perhaps one will become tired, get exhausted, but still never think of giving up; perhaps the road ahead is full of temptation, but you still continue to hold on to those initial feelings; perhaps arguments will arise, and there will be different opinions, but will continue to listen and tolerate; perhaps separation is inevitable, but that special position in my heart will still hold you.

7。】總有人問我什麼是愛情，我覺得愛情就是二十歲的時候，我帶你跟朋友出去玩，你讓我少喝點，我讓你扶著我。四十歲的時候我去上班你讓我把襯衫領子翻出來，我走之前還親你一口。六十歲的時候退休在家，我們盤腿在床上說話解悶，說說下週去哪兒懷舊！
There are always people who ask me what love is, I feel that love at 20, I'll bring you out to play with friends, you help me drink less, and I lean on you. At 40, when I got to work, you help me prepare my clothes, and before I leave for work, I give you a good bye kiss. When I'm 60, retired and at home, we would lie on the bed and talk about anything and everything, talk about where to go for reunions!

8。】每一個現在，都是我們以後的記憶。我們說過的話，做過的事，走過的路，遇過的人，都是我們以後的回憶。我們無須緬懷昨天，不必奢望明天，只要認真地過好每個今天，說能說的話，做可做的事，走該走的路，見想見的人。
Every now, will become our future memories. Everything we say, everything we do, the roads we taken, the people we've met-- all will become part of our memories. There is no need to reminisce our yesterdays, nor is there a need to ponder about tomorrow, we just need to live each day to its fullest: say what you want to say, do what you can do, walk the roads you should walk, and see the people you want to see.

A few thoughts: 女孩問，男孩答 (Girl asks, boy answers)

午後，慵懶的陽光灑落地面，
縱長路上，男孩騎車載著女孩…..
[你會愛我多久？]
女孩緊抱著男孩，側著頭在他耳邊這樣甜甜的問，
她知道，這個問題沒有100分的答案。

On a sunny afternoon, a boy and a girl were riding on a bike...

"How long will you love me for?"

The girl hugged the boy tightly, as she sweetly whispered it into his ear, knowing that, there is no perfect answer.

帶著嬌嗔的輕笑，
她說：「給你一個說甜言蜜語的機會。」
男孩卻認真的思考了起來。
Softly laughing in her cute way,
she said, "Giving you a chance to say sweet things to me."
The boy actually got serious and started to think deeply.

趁著紅燈停止的機會，他舉起手比了個“一”
要女孩猜猜他的答案是什麼。
Given the chance of it being a red light, the boy raised one finger indicating "one" 
wanting the girl to guess what his answer meant.

女孩想了一想，快樂的說：「一輩子！」
男孩笑了，並不是因為她答對，而是感染了她的喜悅。
The girl thought for a moment, and happily replied, "One lifetime!"
The boy laughed, not because she answered correctly, but because he was infected by her happiness.

綠燈了，男孩不僅趨車面對現實，也收斂起笑容，
輕輕的告訴女孩：
「我不會給這種答案的，這樣的答案好到不真實了，像在說謊..再猜猜..」
女孩對男孩的說法很滿意，於是歪者頭繼續想..
「一天？」
「呵呵，我們已經相戀兩個月了，
一天、一星期、一個月這些都不成立喔！」
The light turned green, the boy continued to drive but knew he had to face reality too, so his smile retracted, and gently told the girl,
"I won't give you that kind of answer, it's not practical, like I'm lying... guess again.."
The girl was very satisfied with the boy's response, so she continued to think...
"One day?"
"Haha, we already been dating for two months,
one day, one week, and one month all don't make sense!"

又是紅燈，男孩握住女孩的手，微笑的看著她，
女孩竊笑，大聲的說「不會是一瞬間吧？」
這個答案讓男孩差點笑倒在馬路上「當然不是啦！」
他一直深愛著女孩的幽默，深愛著女孩爽朗的笑容，
這個答案讓他更緊握住女孩的手...
The light turned red again, the boy took the girl's hand in his own, smiled and looked at her,
the girl snickered, and loudly said, "It wouldn't be for one moment, would it?"
This answer made the boy almost fall off his bike from laughing, "Of course not!"
He always deeply loved her sense of humour, deeply loved her hearty smile,
this answer made him grip her hand even tighter...

「一年嗎？」曾經有過一年時間等待的承諾，
使得女孩對一年這個答案特別敏感。

"One year then?" Having once had a promise to wait one year,

the girl was a bit sensitive to this answer.

男孩搖搖頭，
他們之間已經不需要等待，隻剩時間的考驗…….
「一百年好了，愛我一百年就夠了。」
女孩說著，並表現著幸福的模樣。
The boy shook his head,
There was no need for any waiting anymore in their relationship, let time be their test...
"One hundred years is good, it's enough to love me for one hundred years."

As the girl said this, her expression was one of great happiness.

男孩說「一百年太短了吧，不夠我愛你啊！」
甜言蜜語是男孩的專長，愛聽甜言蜜語卻是女孩的弱點….
女孩笑了，輕鈴的笑聲讓男孩闖了紅燈….
The boy said, "One hundred years is too short, it's not enough for me to love you!"
Sweet words are a boy's expertise, loving to hear sweet words is a girl's weakness...
The girl laughed, her laughter was like a softly chiming bell and made the boy run through a red light...

「想要聽答案了嗎？」男孩想說了，
而女孩想聽「我會愛你多久呢？」

"Do you want to hear the answer?" the boy wanted to tell her,

and the girl wanted to hear "How long will you love me for?"

男孩手比著一說：
「一…….一直到你不再愛我的那一天…….」
女孩怔了……
一直到你不再愛我的那一天……

Raising one finger again, the boy said,

"One... until the one day you don't love me anymore..."

The girl was moved...

Until one day you don't love me anymore...

<3<3 This was too sweet!! I saw it on a website, and decided to share (since the website is named "Good things to be shared" :D) Hope you all enjoyed this story too!! (And I hope I didn't butcher it too much as I tried to translate it :)